Today emotions are seen as an integral part of conflict and conflict resolution. Research, mostly experimental or simulation based, has shown that emotional "appraisal" or "self-regulation" can have a positive effect on conflict transformation. Drawing on lessons learned from a case study of conflict transformation involving Jewish and Arab students in Israel, this paper illustrates how the "reappraisal" of difficult emotions can play a central role in creating more positive relationships. The findings suggest that reflexivity is a key part of emotional "reappraisal" and proposes a number of actions that can be taken to actively facilitate this process.