Cyanuric acid (CA) and melamine (M) functionalized lipids can form membranes that exhibit robust hydrogen-bond driven surface recognition in water, facilitated by multivalent surface clustering of recognition groups and variable hydration at the lipid-water interface. Here we describe a minimal lipid recognition cluster: three CA or M recognition groups are forced into proximity by covalent attachment to a single lipid headgroup. This trivalent lipid system guides recognition at the lipid-water interface using cyanurate-melamine hydrogen bonding when incorporated at 0.1-5 mol percent in fluid phospholipid membranes, inducing both vesicle-vesicle binding and membrane fusion. Fusion was accelerated when the antimicrobial peptide magainin was used to anchor trivalent recognition, or when added exogenously to a preassembled lipid vesicle complex, underscoring the importance of coupling recognition with membrane disruption in membrane fusion. Membrane apposition and fusion were studied in vesicle suspensions using light scattering, FRET assays for lipid mixing, surface plasmon resonance, and cryo-electron microscopy. Recognition was found to be highly spatially selective as judged by vesicular adhesion to surface patterned supported lipid bilayers (SLBs). Fusion to SLBs was also readily observed by fluorescence microscopy. Together, these studies indicate effective and functional recognition of trivalent phospholipids, despite low mole percentage concentration, solvent competition for hydrogen bond donor/acceptor sites, and simplicity of structure. This novel designed molecular recognition motif may be useful for directing aqueous-phase assembly and biomolecular interactions.