Background: Gestational carriers and egg donors have been used by ‘traditional' and now increasingly, gay couples. Three gay male couples, all using egg donors and gestational carriers with semen from both partners, had triplets. All desired reductions to twins for the standard medical indications, but requested, if reasonably possible, to have twins with one fathered by each partner. Methods: Following our usual clinical protocol, we performed chorionic villus sampling at 12 weeks on all fetuses obtaining FISH and karyotype. For paternity analysis, 14 polymorphic molecular markers on villi were compared to DNA samples from the two men to include or exclude each. Results: Standard assessments were all normal. Paternity testing showed that one partner fathered two of the triplets, and the other one. In all cases, one of the ‘twins' was reduced with good clinical outcomes ensuing. Conclusions: Paternity balancing increases options for satisfying family planning desires of gay male couples. We believe it comparable to gender preferences in reductions, i.e. it can be considered but only completely subservient to any clinical criteria. Paternity balancing raises similar ethical issues as reduction with gender preferences, but may increase patient autonomy and mainstream acceptance of stable, gay families.