Compact finite-difference (FD) schemes specify derivative approximations implicitly, thus to achieve parallelism with domain-decomposition suitable partitioning of linear systems is required. Consistent order of accuracy, dispersion, and dissipation is crucial to maintain in wave propagation problems such that deformation of the associated spectra of the discretized problems is not too severe. In this work we consider numerically tuning spectral error, at fixed formal order of accuracy to automatically devise new compact FD schemes. Grid convergence tests indicate error reduction of at least an order of magnitude over standard FD. A proposed hybrid matching-communication strategy maintains the aforementioned properties under domain-decomposition. Under evolution of linear wave-propagation problems utilizing exponential integration or explicit Runge-Kutta methods improvement is found to remain robust. A first demonstration that compact FD methods may be applied to the Z4c formulation of numerical relativity is provided where we couple our header-only, templated C++ implementation to the highly performant GR-Athena++ code. Evolving Z4c on testbed problems shows at least an order in magnitude reduction in phase error compared to FD for propagated metric components. Stable binary-black-hole evolution utilizing compact FD together with improved convergence is also demonstrated.