This paper explores features of post‐separation co‐parenting from fathers' perspectives in men with and without a history of domestic violence (DV). Co‐parenting interview data from 20 fathers were randomly selected from a larger, longitudinal study (Fathers and Kids) conducted in Toronto, Canada, examining how domestically violent fathers impact children's development. Using thematic analysis, three themes were created for separated fathers without a history of DV: I value my ex‐partner's involvement with our child; we're good as co‐parents; and how we co‐parent impacts our child. Two themes were created for DV fathers: my ex‐partner is a bad mother; and my ex‐partner is responsible for our difficulties co‐parenting. These themes indicate markedly different perspectives between the two groups, specifically in valuing versus disparaging their ex‐partner, cooperation versus blame, and recognition versus no recognition of the potential impact of ongoing co‐parenting conflict on children. The nature of the differences between groups highlights the need to assess and support fathers with a history of DV as co‐parents, and indicates possible targets of intervention for fathering programmes.
Key Practitioner Messages
For most fathers with a history of DV perpetration, co‐parenting problems persisted post‐separation.
Narratives of most DV fathers demonstrated overwhelmingly negative evaluations of ex‐partners, predominant patterns of blaming mothers for difficulties and lack of insight into the impact of co‐parenting conflict on children.
Decisions about the involvement of DV fathers post‐separation should be preceded by thorough and ongoing assessment and, for those with ongoing contact, support in order to safely and effectively co‐parent.