While browsing my Facebook feed on an early summer day in May 2017, a post with the trigger warning "inconsistent use of pronouns" grabbed my attention. The post, shared within a private Facebook group for (foreign) LGBTQIA+ individuals and allies living in Japan, featured an article recently published in The New York Times. Titled "Japanese Transgender Politician is Showing 'I Exist Here'," the article focuses on Hosoda Tomoya, a Japanese trans man who recently won a seat in the local city council in a suburb just outside of Tokyo (Rich, 2017). Hosoda made history as the first trans man in the world to be voted to public office, and the near-full-page article delved into Hosoda's life history, his journey into politics, and the challenges that he faced as a trans person living in Japan. What the author and the subsequent commenters of the Facebook post found "baffling" about the article was the use of the pronoun "she" when referring to Hosoda's childhood years as a girl named Mika, whereas throughout the remainder of the article, "he" was used to refer to Hosoda. This inconsistency was deemed by some as "poor etiquette," particularly from a reputable outlet like The New York Times. What the readers were not aware of, however, was that Hosoda himself had approved the use of the pronoun "she" in that specific section of the report. The reason he provided was that it is an undeniable fact that he had "publicly lived as a woman before chiryo" (transition, literally medical treatment) and therefore did not see anything wrong with using the feminine third-person pronoun (private communication). If Hosoda himself did not find the pronouns "inconsistent" or offensive, should the general readers take issue with them?In the middle of 2020, I received an email from a graduate student based in the United States who had recently read one of my articles. The student took issue with my use of the term "FTM," pointing out that by using it to refer to my research informants, I am perpetuating the "linguistic violence" associated with the term. In that article, I drew on my fieldwork in what I term the Japanese FTM community in Tokyo to show how seemingly mundane social events, such as drinking parties that are organized by and for trans men, can function as a site for my informants to negotiate inclusion and belonging as transThis is an open access article under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs License, which permits use and distribution in any medium, provided the original work is properly cited, the use is non-commercial and no modifications or adaptations are made.