I t was the International Microwave Symposium (IMS) in San Francisco, CA, USA, in 2016. I had defended my dissertation just weeks before, and because I would be delivering a poster presentation later that day, I approached my assigned table at the speakers' breakfast, empty but for a couple I hadn't met: a polite, elegant woman accompanied by a man whose work, it would turn out, I did know. Their assigned table was already full; would we mind if they joined this one? This was how I met John Bandler.