We suggest a delayed feedback control scheme with arbitrary delay for stabilizing a periodic orbit, while maintaining the noninvasiveness of the controller. Since the constraint on the delay to be adjusted to the period of the unstable periodic orbit is not imposed, a richer structure of the dynamics can be observed: Not only weakly unstable, but also strongly unstable periodic orbits are stabilized and even stabilization of orbits with infinite period is achieved. The control mechanism is elucidated for the generic model of a subcritical Hopf bifurcation. A complete bifurcation analysis for the fixed point as well as the periodic orbit is presented and the stability domains are identified. Furthermore, we study the effects of distributed delayed feedback on the stabilization of periodic orbits, and show that larger variance of the delay distribution considerably enlarges the stabilization region in the parameter space. We extend the control scheme to a network of Hopf normal forms coupled with heterogeneous delays. By tuning the coupling parameters, different synchronization patterns, i.e., in-phase, splay, and clustering, can be selected. The characteristic equation for Floquet exponents of the heterogeneous delay network is derived in an analytical form, which reveals the coupling parameters for successful stabilization. The equation takes a C.-U. Choe · R.-S. Kim · H. Jang Center for Nonlinear Science, University of Science, Unjong-District, Pyongyang, DPR Korea P. Hövel · E. Schöll (B) Institut für Theoretische Physik, Technische Universität Berlin, Hardenbergstraße 36, 10623 Berlin, Germany e-mail: schoell@physik.tu-berlin.de P. Hövel Bernstein Center for Computational Neuroscience, Humboldt-Universität zu Berlin, Philippstraße 13, 10115 Berlin, Germany unified form for both subcritical and supercritical Hopf bifurcations regardless of the synchronization patterns. Analysis of Floquet exponents and direct numerical simulations show that the heterogeneity in the delays drastically facilitates stabilization and provides an enlarged parameter region for successful control. Finally, we consider the thermodynamic limit in the framework of a mean field approximation and show that heterogeneous delays offer an enhanced performance of control.