This article examines opposing viewpoints on Northern research interventions in Southern cities regarding urban refugees. While some argue for a complete boycott of Northern interventions, others perpetuate colonial attitudes of patronization. Engaging with decolonial perspectives, this article aims to bridge the gap between current practices and a desired decolonial future in refugee studies. By reflecting on personal experiences, it highlights the usually unnoticed dynamics of North–South partnerships, academic and non-academic, in refugee studies. The article explores the Northern presence in the South, focusing on Jordan. It analyses four primary trends of Northern conduct in Jordan: the shift from women empowerment to climate change, rapid out-of-touch fieldwork, the Four Seasons Phenomenon, and the add-on partners. Finally, it seeks a middle ground by providing guidance to both Northern and Southern entities, facilitating better partnerships. This article aims to raise awareness and guide experts, scholars, and INGOs in refugee studies and other disciplines.