Catchin' Feelings: Experiences of Intimacy during Black College Students' Sexual Encounters

Dogan, Jardin; Hargons, Candice N.; Meiller, Carolyn; Oluokun, Joseph; Montique, Chesmore; Malone, Natalie

doi:10.1353/bsr.2018.0021

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“…Kirk (22, White, male, bisexual) said, “The emotional part isn’t always love. Great sex is totally possible without romantic love, or any love for that matter, although I vastly prefer to be at least good friends with sexual partners.” Citing an emotional component echoes previous research (Dogan et al, 2018 ; Epstein et al, 2009 ; Fahs & Plante, 2017 ; Kleinplatz & Ménard, 2007 ; Vannier & O’Sullivan, 2012 ). However, this delineation between emotional, romantic, and love echoes previous research on women participating in infidelity, who sought an emotional connection absent love (Walker, 2017 ).…”

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Caring, Chemistry, and Orgasms: Components of Great Sexual Experiences

Walker

Lutmer

2023

Sexuality & Culture

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Sexual satisfaction is important to individual well-being and relationship satisfaction, making it a research topic relevant for sex clinicians and relationship therapists. The current study adds to sexuality literature by asking participants questions about the factors involved in “great sex.” We conducted 78 interviews via email or phone with participants ranging in age from 18 to 69. The sample included a diverse range of sexual orientations and identities, and various relationship statuses. Three primary themes emerged regarding great sex: orgasm, an emotional component, and chemistry/connection. Though some participants equated an emotional aspect as love; most participants made clear the difference between love and emotional elements in sex. Many participants shared their belief that a man only invests in his female partner’s orgasm when he also invests in her emotionally. Thus, some women explained that the emotional component helped them be present enough to orgasm. Others explained the emotional component as trust and affection. Participants also elaborated to define chemistry, which they regarded as out of one’s control and impossible to manufacture. A smaller number of participants stated unequivocally the lack of necessity of an emotional aspect to great sex; they stated instead that physical connection trumped an emotional component.

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Caring, Chemistry, and Orgasms: Components of Great Sexual Experiences

Walker

Lutmer

2023

Sexuality & Culture

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“…Black women are "routinely counsel[ed]…to subjugate our needs to those of Black men," affirming their personhood and masculinity in a non-reciprocal fashion (Collins 2000, 153; see also Utley 2010). Following the claim that hermeneutic labor frequently involves offering up plans for action about how to improve the relationship, the blues tradition offers a substantial rhetoric for how men can "change their ways" through faithfulness and expressiveness (Collins 2000, 154).Various studies suggest that Black women in relationships with men feel it is their duty to set patterns of communication with men partners, and experience this as unsatisfying (McLellan-Lemal et al 2013;Awosan and Hardy 2017;Dogan et al 2018). A study of unmarried heterosexual Black Americans between the ages of 25 and 35 suggests that Black Americans may see their romantic relationships as a sanctuary from oppressive social structures, which may indicate that relationships among this group "demand more emotional and psychological focus and attention" compared with other racial groups (Awosan and Hardy 2017, 477).…”

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Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men

Anderson

2023

Hypatia

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In recent years, feminist scholarship on emotional labor has proliferated. I identify a related but distinct form of care labor, hermeneutic labor. Hermeneutic labor is the burdensome activity of: understanding and coherently expressing one's own feelings, desires, intentions, and motivations; discerning those of others; and inventing solutions for relational issues arising from interpersonal tensions. I argue that hermeneutic labor disproportionately falls on women's shoulders in heteropatriarchal societies, especially in intimate relationships between women and men. I also suggest that some of the gendered burdens of emotional labor that feminist scholars point out would better be described as hermeneutic labor. Drawing on feminist philosophy as well as findings from social psychology and sociology, I argue that the exploitation of women's hermeneutic labor is a pervasive element of what Sandra Bartky calls the “micropolitics” of intimate relationships. The widespread expectation that women are relationship-maintenance experts, as well as the prevalence of a gendered demand-withdraw pattern of communication, leads an exploitative situation to appear natural or even desirable, even as it leads to women's dissatisfaction. This situation may be considered misogynistic in Kate Manne's sense, where misogyny is a property of social environments rather than a worldview.

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“…" Urban Dictionary), due to the nature of hooking up as an emotionally detached practice (Freitas 2013). Dogan et. al.…”

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“…So really, nobody is like hitting on each other in real life. 'catching feelings' or becoming too emotionally involved; interpersonal communication is seen as a part of this process and is generally avoided(Dogan et. al.…”

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Hooking up while being 'down' (with the cause): a study of Black sexual life

Casper¹

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[EMBARGOED UNTIL 6/1/2023] This dissertation centers Black collegiate women's intersectional experiences of navigating dating and hookup culture at a large historically predominantly white university in the Midwest. Using a qualitative approach, I found that the structural politics of space, race, gender, sexuality, and class affect how Black students navigate racially segregated campus social life, which informs dating and hooking up strategies. This belies extant studies that continue to privilege middle-class white students' perspectives and maintain that students of color are less likely to engage in hooking up practices. I argue that the predominantly white university operates as a white spatial imaginary in which white students create racial boundaries around the dominant social and hookup culture on campus through racially exclusive behaviors, intensifying Black women's aversion to interracial coupling. In response, Black students establish a Black spatial imaginary grounded in racial solidarity and support through the creation of an informal social system with separate cultural spaces. Within these spaces, engagement with Black-oriented social media becomes a preeminent mechanism through which Black students initiate romantic or sexual interest. Contemporary politics of Black sexuality aid in the facilitation of a complex Black heteropatriarchal structure that shapes how students date and hook up according to the intersections of their racial authenticity, gender conformity, class status, and sexual orientation.

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Catchin' Feelings: Experiences of Intimacy during Black College Students' Sexual Encounters

Cited by 11 publications

References 53 publications

Caring, Chemistry, and Orgasms: Components of Great Sexual Experiences

Caring, Chemistry, and Orgasms: Components of Great Sexual Experiences

Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men

Hooking up while being 'down' (with the cause): a study of Black sexual life

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