There are well-known gender differences in the form and content of extended family relationships. This paper examines how gender differences vary across the life course.More specifically, it is examined how fathers and mothers differ in the support they receive from children, and how this depends on whether the parents divorce, become widow(er)s, enter a new relationship, and have new children. The guiding hypothesis is obtained from the notion that women are 'kinkeepers.' This notion implies that the position of fathers vis-à-vis mothers would be worsened outside of marriage.Analyses are based on 8,040 parent-child dyads obtained from a new nationally representative survey from the Netherlands. Positive evidence is obtained for the hypothesis. Although fathers already receive less support from children than mothers while married, this difference is larger when fathers are not married. This is not only true for a divorce that occurred early in the life of the child, but also for 'late' divorces. Moreover, during the stage of widowhood, gender differences are increased as well. Remarriage and new children have further negative effects and these effects are also stronger for fathers than for mothers.3