BrotheringTo celebrate his eighteenth birthday, Geoff Falk planned to visit relatives in Liverpool. Clouding his anticipated enjoyment was his 'unhappiness' that his older brother, Cecil, could not share the day with him. Cecil, an officer serving on the Balkan front, reassured his sibling that there was no need to rein in his pleasure. Such gestures were unnecessary, given his confidence in the enduring strength of their bond. 'You & I miss one another very much,' he wrote, 'we have always been equals & always shall be.' 1 Other accounts too attest not only to the depth of brotherly bonds but also to their significance as loving relationships. Given the relative youth of serving men in the Great War, established ties to siblings held greater emotional salience. Close relationships among adult siblings can be traced back to their childhood experiences. 2 Patterns established in childhood and adolescence extended into wartime behaviours. 3 Brotherly relationships appear to have been significant, providing emotional and practical sustenance. By examining the personal narratives of men who had a close, affectionate bond with at least one male sibling, this chapter explores how men experienced and expressed brotherly love and brothering. Comparing pre-war childhood and wartime accounts of brotherly 'love' enables us to trace how emotional practices and values instilled at an early age continued into adulthood.
Not only a brother but a good friendAccounts of close fraternal relationships often suffer from a double absence: the absence of appropriate language to describe these bonds