Persistent interparental conflict lasting two or more years after separation is a phenomenon that has been difficult to understand and manage professionally. Research has found that parental capacity is dramatically reduced due to engagement with the legal system, and ultimately, there are developmental consequences for children that may endure across their life course. Despite the plethora of studies and resources dedicated to the study of persistent parental conflict, there are very few studies involving parents with a lived experience, as the research to date is predominantly comprised of outsider commentary. This paper presents a critical reflection of a lived experience of persistent interparental conflict utilizing Jan Fook’s (2023) critical incident model. The data for this research is drawn from the analysis of critical incidents - narrative accounts provided by practitioners reflecting on significant events. Here, these accounts reveal how discourses (legal, medical, familial) shape assumptions driving persistent conflict, and illustrate how participation in oppressive systems is misaligned with the best interests of families. The paper’s findings outline how parents can recognize and navigate the discursive influences shaping their conflict, thereby enhancing cooperative co-parenting. Societal discourses perpetuating these conflicts are explored, highlighting the need for systemic change. Finally, restorative approaches prioritizing relationships and advocating for broad participation and empathetic understandings, including the need for solutions that genuinely uphold children’s best interests, are highlighted.