This paper explores dialectical relationships between affective mental disturbance and religious development in men. It then proposes a form of pastoral engagementthe mutual encounter-with men so afflicted. In care giving, the pastor may draw on his or her own charismatic endowment to solicit the recognition of the same within the care seeker, all the while respecting a man's attenuating psychosocial need for communicative boundaries and privacy. Both pastor and care seeker may engage the care process as a mutual, continuing, and dialogic quest for authentic Christian relationship, charisma, and selfhood where each serves as "guide" and "messenger."