Decolonising practices in health, education and research have been high on the indigenous agenda for many years. Assuming expertise from a Western perspective is assuming a dominant and colonising position, one which fails to recognise the expertise and worldview of colonised societies, and subsequent implications. Johnstone 1 recently wrote about the need for decolonising nursing ethics, adding to a growing movement reclaiming indigenous knowledge in Aotearoa New Zealand, Canada, and more recently Australia. Having worked in Aotearoa New Zealand from 2006-2015, I was fortunate to build partnerships with Māori mental health service users Te Kowhao in mental health education and with Dr Amohia Boulton in research. I learned a lot about relationality and the priorities that govern Māori life. Learning from Māori was a key to understanding how to contribute in a way that avoided adopting a dominant position that echoed colonising practices. My understanding about how to contribute was developed from the ethics of care 2 concern for justice, equality and freedom. Understanding power and a commitment to avoid domination are required. Centralising the experience of indigenous people, historically and in the present, and an awareness that actions and responses may infer dominant colonising practices provide an opportunity to approach indigenous people to begin a conversation. Migrating to a new country, even in the privileged position of the lifestyle migrant, has its challenges. As an academic, one of these challenges was issued to me on reading Linda Tuiwai Smith in Denzin and Lincoln: 3. .. the term research is inextricably linked to European imperialism and colonialism and is one of the dirtiest words in the indigenous dictionary. .. as knowledge is collected, classified and then represented back to the West. The word research stirs up anger, silence and distrust.