We present an Equation/Variable free machine learning (EVFML) framework for the control of the collective dynamics of complex/multiscale systems modelled via microscopic/agent-based simulators. The approach obviates the need for construction of surrogate, reduced-order models. The proposed implementation consists of three steps: (A) from high-dimensional agent-based simulations, machine learning (in particular, non-linear manifold learning (Diffusion Maps (DMs)) helps identify a set of coarse-grained variables that parametrize the low-dimensional manifold on which the emergent/collective dynamics evolve. The out-of-sample extension and pre-image problems, i.e. the construction of non-linear mappings from the high-dimensional input space to the low-dimensional manifold and back, are solved by coupling DMs with the Nyström extension and Geometric Harmonics, respectively; (B) having identified the manifold and its coordinates, we exploit the Equation-free approach to perform numerical bifurcation analysis of the emergent dynamics; then (C) based on the previous steps, we design data-driven embedded wash-out controllers that drive the agent-based simulators to their intrinsic, imprecisely known, emergent open-loop unstable steady-states, thus demonstrating that the scheme is robust against numerical approximation errors and modelling uncertainty. The efficiency of the framework is illustrated by controlling emergent unstable (i) traveling waves of a deterministic agent-based model of traffic dynamics, and (ii) equilibria of a stochastic financial market agent model with mimesis.