“…Huffer, theorizing from her own queer relationship, analyses how the ego informs the seemingly banal and everyday world of work — there is a version of the ‘ideal ego’ evident in organizations, and those who cannot achieve it are excluded or excludable. Her argument that individual psyches are located within both sides of the binary, that is, individuals are both oppressors and oppressed, takes us to Bersani's advocacy, via the example of the sexual act of barebacking, of a new relational model of being that involves dissolution of the ego so that self and others merge (for similar arguments, see Dean, ; Dollimore, ). Berlant and Edelman acknowledge that there is very little sex in their discussion, which focuses on the intercourse of conversation or non‐sexual intercourse, but their text is redolent with sexual metaphors.…”