Some children with autism and learning disabilities also have aberrant behaviours difficult to regulate, stressful both for the child and for family members. The present case study concerns experiences of 10 parents from five families before and two years after entrusting their 10-11 year old child with autism to a group home. Hermeneutic phenomenological analysis of narrative interviews with the parents before the child's moving showed them experiencing grief and sorrow, total exhaustion because of inability to regulate their child's behaviours, social isolation, and negative effects on the child's siblings, but experiencing themselves as more sympathetic than earlier towards other people with problems. Two years later they experienced relief for the family due to the group home arrangement and the child's improvement, but with an ethical dilemma, which made them feel guilty, despite increased hope for the future. Some also felt unhappy with the staff situation at the group home.