“…Differentiation of self seems to be fundamental to an individual's capacity to achieve intimacy and mutuality in marriage. In recent years, many studies have proposed that differentiation of self is an important predictor of the quality of romantic relationships, and there are many reports that individuals and couples who report good self‐differentiation are more satisfied with their intimate relationships and experience less relational conflict than those who report fusion with others, emotional reactivity, or emotional cut‐off (Anderson & Sabatelli, ; Aryamanesh et al., ; Knauth & Skowron, ; Lampis, ; Lampis, Cataudella, Busonera, & Skowron, ; Mohsenian, Karamlo, & Ganjavi, ; Peleg, ; Rodríguez‐González et al., ; Sabatelli & Bartle‐Haring, ; Skowron, ). These findings also are consistent with research (Gubbins et al., ; Schwartz, Thigpen, & Montgomery, ) trying to connect Bowen's theory self‐differentiation with Gottman's model of marital interactions (Gottman, ; Gottman & DeClaire, ; Gottman & Silver, ) and with research showing that spouses’ differentiation from their birth family was associated with emotional flooding during arguments and marital satisfaction (Gubbins et al., ) and with failure to create a stable sense of self (Schwartz, Thigpen, & Montgomery, ).…”