Doing and Undoing Gender in Commuter Marriages

Lindemann, Danielle J.

doi:10.1007/s11199-017-0852-x

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“…Additionally, individuals perform facework for different face needs. In developing Politeness Theory, Brown and Levinson (1987) wrote about positive face (desirable public image) and negative face (autonomy) needs; however, others have used slightly different terms such as competence and autonomy face (Lim & Bowers, 1991). Thus, positive face is our desired image or how we would want others to see us, and negative face is our need to be free from imposition.…”

Section: Facework Theorymentioning

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An Examination of Individually Performed and (Co)Managed Facework: Unique Communication within the Work-Spouse Relationship

McBride

Thorson

Bergen

2020

Communication Studies

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While more researchers have begun to study the work-spouse relationship and made claims that it is unique, scholars have yet to specifically examine how, if at all, communication in the workspouse relationship is different from that with other coworkers. Facework was used as a theoretical lens to analyze data from 41 indepth interviews with work spouses. Findings highlight how participants presented themselves in unique ways within the work-spouse relationship, how work spouses (co)managed positive and negative face needs within the relationship, and the distinctive communication that serves as the basis for these work-spouse relationships. Finally, this relational context provides evidence for the complexity of Facework Theory in close, ongoing relationships, particularly in the blurring of preventive and corrective facework.

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Section: Facework Theorymentioning

confidence: 99%

“…Thus, positive face is our desired image or how we would want others to see us, and negative face is our need to be free from imposition. Lim and Bowers (1991) also discussed fellowship face or the need to be included and have connections with another. No matter the reason why it is performed, we can perform facework in any interaction.…”

Section: Facework Theorymentioning

confidence: 99%

An Examination of Individually Performed and (Co)Managed Facework: Unique Communication within the Work-Spouse Relationship

McBride

Thorson

Bergen

2020

Communication Studies

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“…Under conditions in which migration and movement are faster and more widespread, old ways alter and intimate ties float free, but also sometimes pool back into familiar patterns (Wilding 2017). In particular, distance relationships challenge models of gendered mobility based on ideas of women as 'trailing spouses' (Lindemann, 2017a). There was resistance to following their male partners amongst the women I interviewed.…”

Section: Committed Couples Distance Relating As Undoing Structured Gementioning

confidence: 98%

“…However, in many such relationships, couples live near each other. This paper deals with the affordances of physical and geographical distance between partners for doing gender differently (Holmes 2004a, Lindemann 2017a), but adds a consideration of how distance affects potential relationships as well as established ones. The empirical material analysed below looks at gender inequalities attached to intimacy at a distance between UK based academic couples, and between UK and Australian internet daters meeting virtually.…”

Section: Conceptualising Gendered Intimacies At a Distancementioning

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“…From what they tell me, it seems all the distance relationships in the study came about when the women moved to take up jobs elsewhere, or didn't follow their partner when he moved. Existing studies suggest that it is not clear whether women instigate or 'choose' distance relationships, or feel they have little control, but such relationships may nevertheless 'undo' gender to some degree (Holmes, 2004a;Lindemann, 2017a). What is less clear is what part emotions play in this.…”

Section: Committed Couples Distance Relating As Undoing Structured Gementioning

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‘Going against the grain’? Distance relationships, emotional reflexivity and gender

Holmes

2019

Emotion, Space and Society

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Intimacy at a distance is becoming an increasingly likely experience for a wide range of people, not only migrants. In the context of globalization and rapid change, many face novel situations and uncertainty around how to feel. Distance relationships therefore provide good examples of how globalised intimacies promote emotional reflexivity. Yet the extent to which distance relationships promote emotional reflexivity is likely to vary depending on the type of relationship and the socio-relational and spatial context. This paper explores that possibility by referring to ESRC funded research involving joint interviews with UK based academic couples in distance relationships 1 and another project analysing online accounts written by UK and Australian internet daters looking for partners. The findings suggest that distance relationships between potential partners online can promote emotional reflexivity that trouble gender relations at an interpersonal level, but that established and committed couple relationships conducted at a distance are more likely to challenge structural gender inequalities. These empirical examples show that globalised social change around gender needs to be understood in relation to different kinds of mobility, not just international migration. Thus, this paper contributes to understandings of the increasing importance of emotional reflexivity in bringing about and in understanding social change under globalised social conditions.

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A temporary solution to the two-body problem: How gender norms disadvantage women in commuting couples.

Sallee¹

2023

Journal of Diversity in Higher Education

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Based on interviews with 31 academics and 5 nonacademic partners, this article explores the experiences of academics in commuting couples, or those who live apart for work-related reasons. Using identity theory as a guide, this article explores how participants navigate their competing identities of academic and partner (and, for some, parent) to determine how to best accommodate their personal and professional obligations. Although commuting offered participants an opportunity to prioritize their professional identity, women in opposite-gender couples particularly struggled with the arrangement as they felt it came into conflict with their responsibilities and roles as mothers.

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Doing and Undoing Gender in Commuter Marriages

Cited by 14 publications

References 64 publications

An Examination of Individually Performed and (Co)Managed Facework: Unique Communication within the Work-Spouse Relationship

An Examination of Individually Performed and (Co)Managed Facework: Unique Communication within the Work-Spouse Relationship

‘Going against the grain’? Distance relationships, emotional reflexivity and gender

A temporary solution to the two-body problem: How gender norms disadvantage women in commuting couples.

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