This study tested predictions from Simpson's (1997, 2001) empathic accuracy model. Married couples were videotaped as they tried to resolve a problem in their marriage.Both spouses then viewed a videotape of the interaction, recorded the thoughts and feelings they had at specific time-points, and tried to infer their partner's thoughts and feelings. Consistent with the model, when the partner's thoughts and feelings were relationship-threatening (as rated by both the partners and by trained observers), greater empathic accuracy on the part of the perceiver was associated with pre-to-posttest declines in the perceiver's feelings of subjective closeness. The reverse was true when the partner's thoughts and feelings were non-threatening.Exploratory analyses revealed that these effects were partially mediated through observer-ratings of the degree to which partners tried to avoid the discussion issue.3 When Accuracy Hurts, and When It Helps:
A Test of the Empathic Accuracy Model in Marital InteractionsPrevious research has uncovered an apparent paradox about the relation between empathic accuracy and relationship quality. The results of some studies indicate that empathic understanding is positively correlated with relationship quality and functioning (e.g., Kahn, 1970; Noller, 1980;Noller & Ruzzene, 1991; Noller & Vernardos, 1986). However, the results of other studies reveal a negative correlation (e.g., Floyd, 1988;Gottman, 1979; Kowalik & Gotlib, 1987;Sillars, Pike, Jones, & Murphy, 1984;Simpson, Ickes, & Blackstone, 1995). It is this apparent paradox that the present study was designed to address.Evidence showing that heightened empathic accuracy can have positive effects on relationships comes from several sources. Relative to unhappily married couples, happy couples are more accurate at identifying both the kind of affect experienced by their partners during conflict resolution discussions as well as their partners' specific goals and intentions (Noller & Ruzzene, 1991). Satisfied married couples also report less discrepant interpretations of their partners' nonverbal communications during conversations than do less satisfied couples (Kahn, 1970). And non-distressed couples tend to exhibit better empathic understanding than clinically distressed couples do (Gottman, 1979).Definitive conclusions, however, cannot be drawn from these findings because other research indicates that-at least in some situations-greater empathic accuracy is associated with poorer relationship functioning and outcomes. In an important early literature review, Sillars and Scott (1983) noted that, in studies of couples engaged in conflict interactions, married partners who are closer and happier actually display less empathic accuracy than those who are not. In 4 related research, Sillars et al. (1984) found that more negative statements and more negative vocal tones were expressed by spouses who more accurately discerned how their partner assessed the importance of the problems being discussed.To explain these puzzling findi...