Faking to finish: Women’s accounts of feigning sexual pleasure to end unwanted sex

Thomas, Emily J.; Stelzl, Monika; Lafrance, Michelle N.

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“…As a research team we discussed how, despite the fact that we all had experienced consensual sexual relationships and thus had successfully negotiated sexual consent, there was only a narrow discourse which either returned to legal definitions and or comparisons in opposition to sexual assault. We are not alone in such struggles for an adequate language (Thomas et al 2017). This lack of language illustrated many of the issues that arose in the literature, that sexual consent, both positive and negative, is an embodied often non-verbal practice, and it is often only in its absence, or in abstract legal terms, we are able to put this affective state into words.…”

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‘All in all it is just a judgement call’: issues surrounding sexual consent in young people’s heterosexual encounters

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Lowe

Brown

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Journal of Youth Studies

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In the UK, there has been growing concern about young people's understanding of sexual consent, with the views of young people themselves often lost in academic and educational policy debates. However, the focus on high rates of sexual violence has meant a lack of attention on the everyday negotiation of consensual heterosexual activity, leading to assumptions being made regarding young people's lack of understanding of sexual consent. This paper emerges from a wider study of over 500 young people which sought to uncover their understanding of the issues. Drawing on data from workshops and the open text responses to an on-line survey the findings presented in this paper show that the majority of heterosexual young people understood the complexity of sexual consent as an embodied process, which can be difficult to define, talk about or practice uniformly. This complex understanding, in which sexual consent is a continuum rather than a dichotomy, has implications for sexual education initiatives. We argue that it is only by providing a closer understanding of how-within consensual sexual activities-young people understand and enact sexual consent through a range of embodied communication strategies that education surrounding sexual assault will become meaningful.

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‘All in all it is just a judgement call’: issues surrounding sexual consent in young people’s heterosexual encounters

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Brown

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Journal of Youth Studies

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“…Studies show that women engaging in PIV sex with men are less likely than their partners to orgasm and more likely to experience pain [35,41]. Faking an orgasm in order to end "bad" sex is a commonly-reported strategy [19]. Accordingly, one might argue that men have greater responsibility for PIV sex since they stand to gain more physical pleasure from it.…”

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“…Then if, from behind a "veil of ignorance" a person was told they would join such a society without knowing the sex of Article pre-print. Cite as: Shahvisi, Arianne, Toward responsible ejaculations: the moral imperative for male contraceptive responsibility, Journal of Medical Ethics (forthcoming) 19 their body or their sexual preferences, they would be likely to find such an arrangement to be fairest [49]. Ending up as a woman would mean facing the risk of pregnancy, but not the primary responsibility or burden for protecting against it.…”

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“…Therefore, while women are expected to prevent unwanted pregnancies, they are not always permitted to rule out pregnancy altogether, which raises the question of whose needs contraception is intended to serve 7. While women are expected to take the lead in contraceptive-use, this agency does not generally extend to the sexual encounter itself, where men tend to have a greater degree of agency in the negotiation of whether, how, and what sex is done[18,19] 8. Many attempts have been made to ground the gendered division of household labour in biology.…”

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Towards responsible ejaculations: the moral imperative for male contraceptive responsibility

Shahvisi

2020

J Med Ethics

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In this paper, I argue that men should take primary responsibility for protecting against pregnancy. Male long-acting reversible contraceptives are currently in development, and, once approved, should be used as the standard method for avoiding pregnancy. Since women assume the risk of pregnancy when they engage in penis-in-vagina sex, men should do their utmost to ensure that their ejaculations are responsible, otherwise women shoulder a double burden of pregnancy risk plus contraceptive burden. Changing the expectations regarding responsibility for contraception would render penis-in-vagina sex more equitable, and could lead to a shift in the discourse around abortion access. I describe the sex-asymmetries of contraceptive responsibility and of the risks associated with pregnancy, and offer arguments in favour of men taking primary responsibility for contraception. My arguments centre on (a) analogies between contraception and vaccination, and unwanted pregnancy and disease; (b) a veil-of-ignorance approach, in which I contend that if a person were not told their sex, they would find a society in which men were expected to acquire and use effective contraceptives the fairest arrangement for everyone.

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“…Some women state that they want to end sex because they are simply tired, bored, or not in the mood . In a widely publicized study, Thomas, Stelzl, and Lafrance (2017) report findings from interviews with 15 women to suggest that faking orgasm may be a means to end unpleasant sex: "it was terrible! ", "it was so bad!…”

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Ideological correlates of sexual behavior: linking political ideology, religiosity, and gender ideology with orgasm and desire

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Ideologies provide a set of norms and values that guide our attitudes and behavior in times of uncertainty. Given the private nature of sex, we may be particularly reliant on our pre-existing ideas about the world to guide our actions in the bedroom. Previous research on the influence of social values on sexual behavior has typically focused on group-level processes, for example, research on the cultural suppression of female sexuality (Baumeister & Twenge, 2002). Scholars in the social sciences have discussed the ways in which we internalize social norms and values, and how these might influence our experience of sex, for example through sexual scripts (Gagnon & Simon, 1973). There is, however, limited empirical work testing the association between worldviews, or ideologies, and sexual behavior at the individual level. The aim of the present thesis I feel like the Peter Pan of PhDs, refusing to grow up from my academic childhood, clutching tight to Neverland with my puny fists (that are now quite strong from typing). I have spent the last four years with two of my favourite people, so writing these acknowledgements is hard because it means loosening my firm grasp on them. Matthew Hornseyyou have been the perfect mentor. When I first heard you speak as an undergraduate, I felt a surge of energy. I wanted to tell everybody about the reciprocity principle, but it was like repeating comedy, it just wasn't the same when I said it. Lucky for me, I got to soak up your unrivalled story-telling, wisdom, and wildly fun sense of humour first hand for the past four years. I sometimes worry that my guffaws from your office scare the birds. Thank you for making my PhD a pleasure, Matthew. But know that you've made it devastatingly hard to leave. Fiona Barlowto borrow your words, you might be the love of my life, and I know I'm not yours, but that's ok. Together, we have tackled questions like who's a stud and who's a slut? What makes a woman orgasm? And do sexist men fart in bed? You are always ten steps ahead, Fi, and I suspect, always have been. Your understanding of the world is so sophisticated that you could easily be bored and dismissive of those around you, but you are one of the most inclusive people I know. I sometimes wonder whether you are super-humanare you a wizard, Barlow? While the biggest chunk of the gratitude pie must go to Matthew and Fiona, so many people in my life deserve their own sizeable chunks. Thanks go to my dear friends from the early days

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Faking to finish: Women’s accounts of feigning sexual pleasure to end unwanted sex

Cited by 55 publications

References 44 publications

‘All in all it is just a judgement call’: issues surrounding sexual consent in young people’s heterosexual encounters

‘All in all it is just a judgement call’: issues surrounding sexual consent in young people’s heterosexual encounters

Towards responsible ejaculations: the moral imperative for male contraceptive responsibility

Ideological correlates of sexual behavior: linking political ideology, religiosity, and gender ideology with orgasm and desire

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