“…I mean that’s a real thing to do. And that they’ll let you.” (Sinding, p. 157) Revised goals | Reducing hopes for patient’s future, deciding to encourage the patient to “let go” to avoid further suffering, admitting patient needs institution-based care [ 27 , 28 , 30 , 32 – 34 , 37 , 38 , 45 , 46 , 48 , 53 , 56 , 59 – 63 ] | Putting own grief or ambivalence on hold to focus on patient’s wishes, reconciling to idea of hastened death as better option than disease trajectory or unassisted suicide [ 15 , 18 , 19 ] |
‘I had to realize that this person was no [longer] capable mentally or physically, and I had to take over the role of [parent] just like you do, first it was like a 6 year old and then a 5 year old.’ (Clukey 2008, p312) |
Spiritual beliefs | Taking comfort in a larger force to supply strength or determine patient’s fate, taking comfort in an afterlife [ 27 , 32 , 33 , 36 , 40 , 56 , 58 , 59 , 61 ] | Spiritual or ritual elements, during or after death, add to closure [ 16 , 18 , 19 , 68 ] |
Positive events | Events that eased suffering, allowed for closure, or provided humor [ 26 , 32 , 33 , 36 , 50 , 55 ] | In U.S. and Canadian studies, deaths were described as joyful, sacred, or peaceful, with patients’ wishes achieved [ 16 , 68 , 70 , ... |
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