Aerial refueling is an extender of air combat capability that has received widespread attention with the development of the military field, particularly the mental workload of the pilot performing the aerial refueling task, as it is the key to the aerial refueling success rate. Therefore, this study analyzes the behavior of receiver aircraft pilots from rendezvous to the separation phase and constructs a mental workload model to improve the aerial refueling success rate. First, the time‐channel‐action unit network was constructed based on Petri net and multiple resource theory (MRT). Second, the mental workload evaluation model was constructed from three dimensions: conventional resource occupation, additional resource occupation, and time occupation. Finally, a simulated experiment was conducted, and the results showed that the mental workload obtained by the model constructed in this study exhibits a high positive correlation with subjective mental workload, pupil diameter, and blink rate, surpassing the accuracy of the traditional MRT model.