“…In forgiving, people need to tell the truth about the offender and the injustice while transforming unforgiving and retributive responses so they are constructive, prosocial, and can genuinely promote flourishing (Witvliet, 2012). Concerns for victim safety (Gordon, Burton, & Porter, 2004;McNulty, 2010), self-differentiation (Sandage & Jankowski, 2010), self-concept clarity, and self-respect (Luchies, Finkel, McNulty, & Kumashiro, 2010) are important for setting the boundary conditions of a just forgiveness that is morally grounded, promotes responsible healing, and does not excuse, minimize, or tolerate injustice . Empathy and compassion are responses that are typically directed toward others who are victims deserving of help when one has the resources to assist, according to the appraisal model of Goetz, Keltner, and Simon-Thomas (2010).…”