Each stage of the human life course is characterised by a distinctive pattern of
social relations. We study how the intensity and importance of the closest
social contacts vary across the life course, using a large database of mobile
communication from a European country. We first determine the most likely social
relationship type from these mobile phone records by relating the age and gender
of the caller and recipient to the frequency, length, and direction of calls. We
then show how communication patterns between parents and children, romantic
partner, and friends vary across the six main stages of the adult family life
course. Young adulthood is dominated by a gradual shift of call activity from
parents to close friends, and then to a romantic partner, culminating in the
period of early family formation during which the focus is on the romantic
partner. During middle adulthood call patterns suggest a high dependence on the
parents of the ego, who, presumably often provide alloparental care, while at
this stage female same-gender friendship also peaks. During post-reproductive
adulthood, individuals and especially women balance close social contacts among
three generations. The age of grandparenthood brings the children entering
adulthood and family formation into the focus, and is associated with a
realignment of close social contacts especially among women, while the old age
is dominated by dependence on their children.