Identity Gaps and Jealousy as Predictors of Satisfaction in Polyamorous Relationships

Rubinsky, Valerie

doi:10.1080/1041794x.2018.1531916

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“…In another study, Robinson (2013) found that polyamory helped bisexual women provide visibility to their bisexuality and offered "a buffer against bisexual erasure" (p. 27). Rubinsky (2019Rubinsky ( , 2021aRubinsky ( , 2021bRubinsky ( , 2022 studied how being polyamorous requires resolving or managing identity gaps, or discrepancies between different aspects of the self. For instance, if an individual views themselves as secure and not prone to jealousy, then being called jealous by a partner creates tension between the partner's attribution and one's sense of self (i.e., an identity gap) (Rubinsky, 2019).…”

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“…Rubinsky (2019Rubinsky ( , 2021aRubinsky ( , 2021bRubinsky ( , 2022 studied how being polyamorous requires resolving or managing identity gaps, or discrepancies between different aspects of the self. For instance, if an individual views themselves as secure and not prone to jealousy, then being called jealous by a partner creates tension between the partner's attribution and one's sense of self (i.e., an identity gap) (Rubinsky, 2019). Identity gaps were found to explain variation in sexual satisfaction, relational satisfaction, and sexual communication satisfaction (Rubinsky, 2022).…”

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A scoping review of research on polyamory and consensual non‐monogamy: Implications for a more inclusive family science

Gupta,

Tarantino,

Sanner

2023

J of Family Theo & Revie

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Polyamory and consensual non‐monogamy (CNM) refer to partnerships in which individuals have romantic, emotional, and/or sexual relationships with multiple people, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Recent decades have seen a surge in research interest in polyamory and CNM, warranting efforts to pause and take stock of empirical findings. In this scoping review, we evaluate and synthesize 209 research studies about polyamory and CNM, paying particular attention to trends in research design, theoretical application, and substantive findings. Researchers have focused broadly on (a) outcomes of CNM relationships, (b) attitudes and perceptions of CNM, (c) antecedents of CNM, (d) CNM relational processes, (e) CNM identity development, (f) polyamorous family and parenting, and (g) CNM politics and discourse. We synthesize research findings within each domain, identify gaps in the literature, and discuss the challenges and opportunities we see in advancing research on polyamory and CNM.

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Section: Cnm Identity Developmentmentioning

confidence: 99%

A scoping review of research on polyamory and consensual non‐monogamy: Implications for a more inclusive family science

Gupta,

Tarantino,

Sanner

2023

J of Family Theo & Revie

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“…Another perceived cost of CNM relationships is the potential to experience difficult emotions, often described using the term jealousy (e.g., Bartell, 1970 ; Cohen, 2015 ; de Visser & McDonald, 2007 ; Deri, 2015 ; Ritchie & Barker, 2006 ; Rubel & Bogaert, 2015 ) but perhaps better understood as a range of related unpleasant feelings (e.g., McLean, 2004 ; Rubinsky, 2018 ; Wolfe, 2003 ). While the extent to which painful emotions are a problem for those who practice CNM appears to vary (Bergstrand & Williams, 2000 ; Ramey, 1975 ), difficult feelings clearly do arise in CNM relationships, are experienced by some as unhealthy or problematic (Rubinsky, 2018 ), and can negatively impact relationship satisfaction (Rubinsky, 2019 ). Further, such feelings may be a cost not only because they are unpleasant and might impact happiness in one’s relationship, but also because they require time and energy to manage (de Visser & McDonald, 2007 ; McLean, 2004 ).…”

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Perceived Impacts of Partners’ Other Relationships on Oneself in Consensual Nonmonogamy

Arter,

Bunge

2024

Arch Sex Behav

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Existing research suggests a number of both costs and benefits to oneself that can occur as a result of partners’ other relationships in consensual nonmonogamy (CNM), but such costs and benefits have not previously been systematically cataloged. Using reflexive thematic analysis, we present themes derived from semi-structured interviews with 51 individuals (63% white, 55% nonbinary/genderqueer/non-cisgendered, and 77% LGBQ) who have practiced CNM, describing the costs and benefits to themselves that they perceive as a result of their partners’ other relationships. Themes describing costs include experiencing difficult feelings (e.g., jealousy), having less with a partner (e.g., less of a partner’s time) than one would like, difficulties or conflict within one’s own relationship, and difficulties or conflict as a result of interactions between metamours (individuals who share a partner). Themes describing benefits include experiencing positive feelings (e.g., compersion), benefiting from a partner getting needs met in other relationships, strengthening of or pleasurable interactions within one’s own relationship, enjoyable or beneficial relationships or interactions between metamours, and personal growth as a result of sharing partners with others. We note that these costs and benefits roughly mirror each other, suggesting that they may reflect the positive and negative sides of some fundamental aspects of CNM. Each of our themes also contains a rich range of elements that suggest avenues for future research. Our results suggest that CNM relationships are complex and multi-faceted, and that further research could fruitfully examine the circumstances that influence whether individuals experience their partners’ other relationships positively or negatively.

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Nakayama,

Martin

2023

The Handbook of Critical Intercultural Communication

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Identity Gaps and Jealousy as Predictors of Satisfaction in Polyamorous Relationships

Cited by 17 publications

References 36 publications

A scoping review of research on polyamory and consensual non‐monogamy: Implications for a more inclusive family science

A scoping review of research on polyamory and consensual non‐monogamy: Implications for a more inclusive family science

Perceived Impacts of Partners’ Other Relationships on Oneself in Consensual Nonmonogamy

Intercultural Communication and Dialectics Revisited

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