Background: Some women decline recommended care during pregnancy and birth.This can cause friction between client and provider. Methods: A designated outpatient clinic was started for women who decline recommended care in pregnancy. All women who attended were analyzed retrospectively.The clinic used a systematic multidisciplinary approach. During the first visit, women told their stories and explained the reasoning behind their birth plan. The second visit was used to present the evidence underpinning recommendations and attempt to reach a compromise if care within recommendations was still not acceptable to the woman. During the third visit, a final birth plan was decided on. Results: From January 1, 2015, until December 31, 2017, 55 women were seen in the clinic, 29 of whom declined items of recommended care during birth and were included in the study. After discussions had been completed, 38% of birth plans were within recommendations, 38% were a compromise, in which both the woman and the care provider had made certain concessions, and 24% did not reach an agreement and delivered with another provider either at home or elsewhere. All maternal and perinatal outcomes were good. Conclusions: Using a respectful and systematic multidisciplinary approach, in which women feel heard and are invited to explain their motivations for their birth plans, we are able to arrive at a plan either compatible with or much closer to recommendations than the woman's initial intentions in most cases, thereby preventing negative choices.