Three‐dimensional carbon fiber reinforced resin matrix composite can effectively overcome the defects of traditional composite in the interlayer strength and stiffness, and has been widely used. Herein, the threshold infiltration pressure of resin in three‐dimensional carbon fiber preform is respectively calculated as 0.170 and 0.973 MPa from the perspective of statics and dynamics. The static calculation ignores the additional pressure caused by the viscous resistance of the resin during the infiltration process, which deviated greatly from the actual value. Therefore, the dynamics calculation value is used as a reference to extrusion pressure in the experiment. The composites with extrusion pressure of 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 MPa are prepared by vacuum infiltration hot pressing process. Through the study of the infiltration microstructure and bending fracture morphology of the composite, it is found that when the extrusion pressure is 3 MPa, the preparation effect is the best. At this time, the bending strength of the composite is 540 MPa, which is 92.86% and 71.43% higher than that at 1 and 5 MPa, respectively. It is indicated that the extrusion pressure is a key parameter in the composite preparation process and needs to be selected reasonably.