Nonlinear optical signatures of electron transfer (ET) adiabaticity are investigated in a prototypical metal polypyridyl system, Os(II)(bpy)(3), known to possess large interligand couplings. Together with a theoretical model, transient absorption anisotropy (TAA) experiments show that field-matter interactions occur with diabatic basis states despite these large couplings. In addition, activated and activationless interligand ET mechanisms are distinguished with a series of TAA experiments in which the pump pulse frequency is tuned over a wide range. At lower pump frequencies, activated interligand ET, which occurs with a time constant of approximately 600 fs, is the dominant mechanism. However, an activationless mechanism becomes most prominent when the pump pulse is tuned by only 800 cm(-1) to higher frequency. This sensitivity of the ET mechanism to the pump frequency agrees with earlier experimental work that estimated an activation energy barrier of 875 cm(-1). The premise of signal interpretation in this paper is that the basis states appropriate for modeling nonradiative relaxation also govern the optical response. Model calculations suggest that optical nonlinearities corresponding to diabatic and adiabatic bases are readily distinguished with TAA experiments. In the diabatic basis, field-matter interaction sequences are restricted to terms in which the pump and probe pulses interact with the same transition dipoles, whereas the adiabatic basis imposes no such restriction and supports a class of coherent cross terms in the nonlinear response function. It is suggested that TAA should be preferred to alternative methods of studying ET adiabaticity that vary solvents and/or temperature. Altering the solvent, for example, generally also impacts solvent reorganization energies and the free energies of the donor and acceptor states. Parallels are discussed between the present work and research aimed at understanding energy transfer mechanisms in molecular aggregates.