When an ethnographer's life is intimately enmeshed in the field through marriage or long-term partnership, what are the implications for ethnographic production? This article uses autoethnographic perspectives to engage issues of patriarchy, privilege, and power from fieldwork through the writing process. I argue that the power to represent these relationships must be examined to take anthropology beyond reflexivity to the realities of doing ethnography in an intimately interconnected world. [ethnography, fieldwork, India, intimacy, privilege] Ethnographers need new ways of communicating shifts between participant and observer, family member and researcher, self and other, to take anthropology beyond reflexivity to the realities of doing ethnography in an intimately interconnected world. In this article, I draw on my experiences conducting ethnographic research as an, at-the-time, childfree United Statesborn daughter-in-law of a high-caste Hindu family working on the cultural dynamics of infertility among Hindu and Muslim women in Lucknow, India. I do not seek a reality show about the secret lives of anthropologists nor a gratuitous quest to unearth the pain of anthropologists, but I maintain that intimate relationships are relevant to understanding the context and structure of research in cultural anthropology and how those relationships get represented in anthropological writing.