We must learn how to lose the game -that begins with the age of two or maybe even earlier. He, who has not learned this early, will not be able to completely handle the greater tasks of adult life. 1 Reb Saunders, a character in Chaim Potok's novel, The Chosen, poses the following questions about his son's education: I looked at my Daniel when he was four years old, and I said to myself, How will I teach this mind what it is to have a soul? How will I teach this mind to understand pain? How will I teach it to want to take on another person's suffering? 2