You shall no longer take things at second or third hand, nor look through the eyes of the dead, nor feed on the spectres in books, You shall not look through my eyes either, nor take things from me, You shall listen to all sides and filter them from yourself. (Walt Whitman, 1881-2) The maestro, Toscanini, declared: 'Every time I conduct the same piece I think how stupid I was the last time I did it' (in Gottlieb, 2017: 20). The music of the group is inspired and limited by our 'stupidity', the ambiguous emergence of our fluctuating emotions, how we integrate them according to theory, craft, personality, andlet's face it-inherent talent. We have opportunity in stupid. Attending to confusion and ignorance-our own, especiallyarouses curiosity and offers direction as to how to think about what is happening and what could happen. Raised in the Dark Ages of classical psychoanalysis and ego psychology, I was taught: 'when in doubt, don't say anything'. Never the most obedient of students, I tended to follow the reverse, and still do. Doubt makes me anxious, but I treasure doubt, offer doubt, and make efforts to instil doubt in others. Each leader is 'stupid', and deals with doubt and confusion in one's own way. No way to circumvent stupidity. No way to avoid being blindsided by assigned roles and configurations, those we bring to our work, and those thrust upon us within the group. To some degree, our minds remain subordinated by an in-eliminable relational-cultural matrix that regulates it (Mitchell, 1988: 292).