Augustine of Hippo's plea to 'give me chastity and continence, but not yet' has resonated with modern readers and writers as the 'natural' reaction of men (and to a lesser extent, women) to the demands of Christianity for the restriction or even avoidance of sexual activity by believers. 1 Augustine's ambivalent response to the competing expectations and attractions of the Roman and Christian cultures in which he lived was an expression of his own belief in the flawed nature of the human soul, its desire to do the right thing but its often tragic inability to sustain that in the face of the temptations of the flesh, but it can also be understood as the product of disparate conceptions of appropriate masculinity. Augustine lived in a world which both applauded the virile expression of sexuality before and during marriage, and held up an ideal of masculine self-restraint and submission of the body's various appetites to the will. Nor was this straightforwardly a distinction between Christian and Roman values. If Christians valued virginity and chastity, it was also true that most Christians married, and Stoic values of self-restraint were an important influence on the development of Christian attitudes to sexual behaviour. 2 While the late Antique world acknowledged the competing attractions of chastity and sexuality for men, more recent writing has paid much less attention to the attractions and significance of the non-sexual life for men in the Middle Ages. There have been extensive studies of the attractions of virginity, chaste or spiritual marriage and vowed widowhood for women, including considerations of the social, spiritual and physical benefits to be gained from its adoption, which have addressed a range of issues, largely focusing on the use of gendered behaviour and expectation. 3 But there has been very little written on laymen, and almost exclusively in contexts where the failure to produce an heir had political consequences. 4 That attitude may be beginning to change, and this article explores some of the evidence for an interest in chastity and celibacy on the part of laymen in late medieval England. 5 The relative absence of such consideration for medieval men is partly a product of the relatively undeveloped state of the field of late medieval masculinity, which has largely focused on high status men, but is partly also a product of the development of a late twentieth/early twenty-first century blind spot about male sexuality. We have moved from a position of heteronormativity which developed (according to different scholars) sometime between the Reformation and the nineteenth century, and which