Men don't cry: The supporting role as necessary for women's well‐being after termination of pregnancy

Abstract

ObjectivesThe present study investigated similarities and differences of grief between men and women as part of the parental couple 1 year after termination of pregnancy (TOP) following a diagnosis of fetal anomaly.MethodsWe applied a method triangulation approach. We assessed several aspects of perinatal grief, depressive symptoms, posttraumatic stress, and anxiety as well as health‐related quality of life. In addition, we conducted qualitative interviews with the men to explore the fathers' roles in the partnership during pregnancy, the time of the diagnosis, TOP, and afterwards.ResultsWomen showed a more elevated grief response compared with men. Qualitative data revealed that men in our sample were mainly concerned with their partners' well‐being and concentrated on supporting their partners rather than on their own emotions. In addition, the supportive role of the male partner plays a central role in the well‐being of women and the man's coping with the situation.ConclusionIn clinical work, but also when developing new questionnaires, the specific role of the male partners needs to be considered more thoroughly. Particular attention should be paid to identify the men who find it difficult to assume the supporting role.