Remote sensing image change detection (CD) is an important means in remote sensing data analysis tasks, which can help us understand the surface changes in high-resolution (HR) remote sensing images. Traditional pixel-based and object-based methods are only suitable for low- and medium-resolution images, and are still challenging for complex texture features and detailed image detail processing in HR images. At present, the method based on deep learning has problems such as inconsistent fusion and difficult model training in the combination of the difference feature information of the deep and shallow layers and the attention mechanism, which leads to errors in the distinction between the changing region and the invariant region, edge detection and small target detection. In order to solve the above problems of inconsistent fusions of feature information aggregation and attention mechanisms, and indistinguishable change areas, we propose a multi-scale feature fusion Siamese network based on attention mechanism (ABMFNet). To tackle the issues of inconsistent fusion and alignment difficulties when integrating multi-scale fusion and attention mechanisms, we introduce the attention-based multi-scale feature fusion module (AMFFM). This module not only addresses insufficient feature fusion and connection between different-scale feature layers, but also enables the model to automatically learn and prioritize important features or regions in the image. Additionally, we design the cross-scale fusion module (CFM) and the difference feature enhancement pyramid structure (DEFPN) to assist the AMFFM module in integrating differential information effectively. These modules bridge the spatial disparity between low-level and high-level features, ensuring efficient connection and fusion of spatial difference information. Furthermore, we enhance the representation and inference speed of the feature pyramid by incorporating a feature enhancement module (FEM) into DEFPN. Finally, the BICD dataset proposed by the laboratory and public datasets LEVIR-CD and BCDD are compared and tested. We use F1 score and MIoU values as evaluation metrics. For AMBMFNet, the F1 scores on the three datasets are 77.69%, 81.57%, and 77.91%, respectively, while the MIoU values are 84.65%, 85.84%, and 84.54%, respectively. The experimental results show that ABMFNet has better effectiveness and robustness.