“…The body of scholarship on step‐relationship development, conducted mainly in the past 2 decades, has yielded clear messages about what works . Scholars consistently find that stepparents who engage in affinity‐seeking behaviors more frequently are more successful at building emotionally close bonds with stepchildren than stepparents who engage in such behaviors less frequently or not at all (Agar et al, 2010; Allan et al, 2011; Baxter et al, 1999; Braithwaite et al, 2018; Bronstein et al, 1994; Bzostek, 2008; Cartwright et al, 2009; Crohn, 2006, 2010; Ganong et al, 1999, 2018, 2019, 2020; Golish, 2003; Hetherington, 1987; Ivanova & Kalmijn, 2020; Jensen & Harris, 2017; Jensen & Pace, 2016; King et al, 2015; Kinniburgh‐White et al, 2010; Limb et al, 2020; Maier et al, 2019; Marsiglio, 2004; Metts et al, 2013, 2017, Nuru & Wang, 2014; Salem et al, 1998; Schenck et al, 2009; Schrodt, 2006, 2016; Schrodt et al, 2008; Schwartz & Finley, 2006; Speer & Trees, 2007; Stern, 1982; Waldron et al, 2018; Weaver & Coleman, 2005; White & Gilbreath, 2001; Willetts & Maroules, 2004). When affinity‐seeking and non–affinity‐seeking stepparents have been compared in investigations, affinity‐seekers consistently report closer emotional bonds with stepchildren (e.g., Ganong et al, 1999; Hetherington, 1987).…”