“…Regarding understanding, Reis and Shaver’s (1988) seminal model of intimacy development emphasizes how understanding disclosers’ needs is critical for partner responsiveness (see also Reis, 2017; Reis et al., 2004)—a quality that makes support beneficial (Maisel & Gable, 2009; Zee et al., 2020). Similarly, “matching” models of social support (e.g., Cutrona & Russell, 1990; Horowitz et al., 2001; Rini & Dunkel‐Schetter, 2010) highlight the role of provider understanding in effective support provision: Recipients benefit most from support when it matches their stressor‐induced needs, support‐seeking goals (e.g., to solve a problem, be comforted), and/or preferences (e.g., Cavallo et al., 2016; Cutrona et al., 2007; Zee et al., 2018; Zee et al., 2020). Providers must understand seekers’ support needs, goals, and preferences to deliver corresponding support.…”