Metal complexes based on N‐heterocyclic carbene (NHC) ligands have emerged as promising broad‐spectrum antitumor agents in bioorganometallic medicinal chemistry. In recent decades, studies on cytotoxic metal–NHC complexes have yielded numerous compounds exhibiting superior cytotoxicity compared to cisplatin. Although the molecular mechanisms of these anticancer complexes are not fully understood, some potential targets and modes of action have been identified. However, a comprehensive review of their biological mechanisms is currently absent. In general, apoptosis caused by metal–NHCs is common in tumor cells. They can cause a series of changes after entering cells, such as mitochondrial membrane potential (MMP) variation, reactive oxygen species (ROS) generation, cytochrome c (cyt c) release, endoplasmic reticulum (ER) stress, lysosome damage, and caspase activation, ultimately leading to apoptosis. Therefore, a detailed understanding of the influence of metal–NHCs on cancer cell apoptosis is crucial. In this review, we provide a comprehensive summary of recent advances in metal–NHC complexes that trigger apoptotic cell death via different apoptosis‐related targets or signaling pathways, including B‐cell lymphoma 2 (Bcl‐2 family), p53, cyt c, ER stress, lysosome damage, thioredoxin reductase (TrxR) inhibition, and so forth. We also discuss the challenges, limitations, and future directions of metal–NHC complexes to elucidate their emerging application in medicinal chemistry.