Sex Education in Pesantren: The Study of Kitab on Sex Manuals in Pesantren in Bandung, West Java

Abstract

This paper examines the sexual agency exercised by married Muslim women in Bandung, Indonesia, in their marital relationships. Dominant discourses teach that women should obey their husbands, and most women believe that they should serve their husbands sexually whenever required. Sex is a taboo subject and women should not discuss sex or initiate sex. Their sexual desire is not acknowledged. However, in-depth interviews with 42 married women, and some husbands, found that a few exceptional women managed to challenge or negotiate around these dominant discourses. The paper examines their exercise of agency with regard to the initiation of sex, positions and practices that they prefer, their ability to say no to sex, ways to avoid having sex and their demand for mutual pleasure in sex.

Edukasi Seksual dalam Pernikahan: Pandangan Syekh At-Tihami dalam Kitab Qurrah Al-Uyun

“…Artikel ini memberikan penjelasan yang komprehensif dan rinci tentang tanggung jawab suami dan istri dalam perkawinan mereka. 7 Penelitian terdahulu yang menjelajahi pandangan Syekh At-Tihami dalam Kitab Qurrah Al-Uyun terkait aspek hubungan kemanusiaan, terutama perkawinan, telah memberikan wawasan berharga namun memiliki keterbatasan dalam cakupan dan kedalaman analisis. 8 Meskipun memberikan gambaran umum, penelitian tersebut tidak sepenuhnya menggali secara mendalam pandangan Syekh At-Tihami tentang edukasi seksual dalam perkawinan.…”