“She convinced me I had Alzheimer’s”: Experiences of intimate partner violence in older men.

Bates, Elizabeth; Carthy, Nikki

doi:10.1037/men0000280

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“…Such findings are consistent with previous research findings among male survivors in general (e.g., Bates, 2019; B. Hines, Bates, & Wallace, 2022) and financial exploitations among older male survivors (Bates & Carthy, 2020). The ability to leave the abusive relationship was often due to support from family and friends rather than other modes of more formal support.…”

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confidence: 93%

“…Postseparation abuse occurred in the form of threatening to take children away and using children as a form of financial exploitation. Such findings are consistent with previous research findings among male survivors in general (e.g., Bates, 2019; and financial exploitations among older male survivors (Bates & Carthy, 2020). The ability to leave the abusive relationship was often due to support from family and friends rather than other modes of more formal support.…”

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confidence: 92%

“…A. Hines & Douglas 2010; Perryman & Appleton, 2016). Furthermore, research exploring older males’ experiences of IPV has also found that violence perpetrated by females is comparable to that from younger cohorts as well as older men experiencing financial abuse from intimate partners (Bates & Carthy, 2020).…”

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The Process of Leaving Abuse: Midlife and Older Male Experiences of Female-Perpetrated Intimate Partner Violence

Carthy

Best

Divers

2023

J Interpers Violence

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Leaving an abusive relationship is a difficult process for all survivors. For men, this can be particularly challenging due to the current knowledge and support for survivors being heavily influenced by a feminist discourse, despite a growing body of research that examines men’s experiences. This raises concerns about how men make sense of abuse, where they seek support for injuries and psychological distress, and what services are available to them to help them move on from abuse. Narrative interviews with 12 midlife and older men (aged 45–65 years) who had experienced intimate partner violence from a female were conducted with the aim to explore their journey of leaving abuse. The men’s stories revealed themes of how they made sense of what was happening to them (legitimacy as a survivor and self-help), their experiences of service readiness to respond to male victimization (discrimination from police, legal system set up to support women, and service readiness for males), and how men can leave abuse (post-separation abuse and support from friends and family). Implications of the findings demonstrate that many services are still not equipped to support male survivors. The men in our study found it difficult to comprehend their experience as abuse and this is negatively reinforced by ineffective services and stereotypical beliefs about abuse. However, informal support through friends and family is a powerful tool in supporting men to leave abusive relationships. More work is needed to increase awareness of male survivors and ensure that services, including legal systems, are inclusive.

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Section: Discussionsupporting

confidence: 92%

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The Process of Leaving Abuse: Midlife and Older Male Experiences of Female-Perpetrated Intimate Partner Violence

Carthy

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Divers

2023

J Interpers Violence

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“…The impact of experiences such as these on men has been expressed by Bates (2020) as spending their lives “walking on eggshells,” and by Westmarland et al (2021) as “living a life by permission.” Indeed, a recent study by Policastro and Finn (2021) reported that the “odds of men being subjected to surveillance by their intimate partners were significantly higher than females.” In addition, Bates and Carthy (2020) have drawn particular attention to the impact that coercive and controlling abuse has on older men with one of their respondents stating, “she had me believing I had Alzheimer's.” In sum, Graham-Kevan et al (2021) suggest that the impact of the behaviours documented in this work (all of which fit under the rubric of coercive control) resulted in eight out of ten of the men in their sample displaying symptoms not unlike posttraumatic distress.…”

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In control, out of control or losing control? Making sense of men's reported experiences of coercive control through the lens of hegemonic masculinity

Walklate

Fitz‐Gibbon

Reeves

et al. 2022

Journal of Criminology

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“I have never had a case that involved a female perpetrator of coercive control, and no such cases are documented in the literature” (Stark, 2007, p. 377). Stark's observation has become somewhat of a “truism” in the wider debate surrounding coercive control. Yet simultaneously coercive control is asserted as a gendered process, understandings of which appear to have elided and conflated victimhood and perpetration with femininity and masculinity. The purpose of this paper, based on empirical data, is to unpick some of these elisions and conflations and offer a more nuanced understanding of these debates using the lens of hegemonic masculinity. This paper is based on data derived from a national online survey conducted in Australia in 2021. The aim of this paper is to explore, and better understand male reported experiences of coercive control victimisation. The survey was completed by 1261 people, 206 (17%) of whom identified as men. These 206 responses are the focus of this paper. Representing one of the most comprehensive studies of men's self-reported experiences of coercive control, this survey data provides some insight into how male victim-survivors define and understand what they considered to be their experiences of coercive control. The findings provide an opportunity to offer a more nuanced appreciation of men's experiences of being in control, out of control or losing control.

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Associations of history of intimate partner violence with mental ill-health and lifestyle factors in middle-aged and older men and women in South Africa

Pengpid,

Peltzer

2024

Archives of Gerontology and Geriatrics

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“She convinced me I had Alzheimer’s”: Experiences of intimate partner violence in older men.

Cited by 5 publications

References 82 publications

The Process of Leaving Abuse: Midlife and Older Male Experiences of Female-Perpetrated Intimate Partner Violence

The Process of Leaving Abuse: Midlife and Older Male Experiences of Female-Perpetrated Intimate Partner Violence

In control, out of control or losing control? Making sense of men's reported experiences of coercive control through the lens of hegemonic masculinity

Associations of history of intimate partner violence with mental ill-health and lifestyle factors in middle-aged and older men and women in South Africa

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