The language of loss when an infant dies prior to birth conveys many meanings. In titling this paper we wanted to be specific about the language that emerges when a baby dies prior to birth-language that either honors or dishonors the lived experience of loss of a baby. To be consistent with our views of language and meaning we needed to shift from the more common phrase, pregnancy loss, to language that acknowledges women who experience the loss ofa baby. In our experience, some mothers living with the loss of a baby at birth have been told by health professionals not to be upset because they lost a pregnancy not a baby, suggesting that a pregnancy is an object void of humanness and void of a sound rationale to grieve the loss. Of course most women do not experience pregnancy as an object. Indeed, the objectification of the baby and the lost pregnancy is a blatant disregard of the reality of the lost baby and this disregard can intensify the suffering of parents. In addition, the objectification of the loss as a lost pregnancy conveys that parents should not speak of the loss as the loss of a child. While much has improved over the past thirty years and perinatal death is no longer a non-event (Leon, 1992), speaking of a baby's death is still taboo in society when the baby dies prior to birth and, in our experience, many parents are still silenced and discouraged from expressing the reality of their grief and sadness.Language among humans is more than important-it not only expresses personal meaning-language creates mean-