In this article, I use the concept of the dividual to analyze the dynamics at stake in a family caring for a member with early-onset dementia. Drawing on anthropological fieldwork in the Netherlands, I argue that using a dividual framework reveals family dynamics that are overlooked when using an individual framework, and it allows one to better understand the emotional pain that family members experience during the care process. Approaching family members as fractal persons shows how their identity is composed of other family members and how this can lead to dilemmas and conflicts in the care situation. The majority of articles on dementia focus on dyadic relationships. This article advocates a systemic approach encompassing the whole family. Moreover, it underlines the importance of taking the historicity of family relations into account and not limiting the analysis to situational dynamics. Nederlandse samenvatting In dit artikel gebruik ik het concept van het dividu om een gezin te analyzeren dat met dementie op jonge leeftijd te maken kreeg. Baserend op antropologisch veldwerk in Nederland, argumenteer ik dat het concept van het dividu gezinsdynamieken blootlegt die over het hoofd worden gezien wanneer een individualistisch perspectief wordt toegepast. Dit concept helpt ons om de emotionele pijn die gezinsleden in het proces ervaren beter te begrijpen. Daarnaast laat het zien hoe de identiteit van een familielid niet afgebakend is, maar uit identiteitsdelen van andere familieleden bestaat. Deze verstrengelingen kan tot dilemma's en conflicten leiden. Dit artikel pleit voor een systemische benadering van dementiezorg en benadrukt het belang van de relatiegeschiedenis. [early-onset dementia, family, dividual, care, identity, personhood, the Netherlands] The Dutch Alzheimer's Society estimates that about 260,000 people in the Netherlands have a dementia diagnosis, of which about 12,000 are cases of early-onset dementia, which is diagnosed when the affected person is below the age of 65. 1 Early-onset dementia affects the nuclear family even more than dementia in old age. In the first years after illness onset, people with early-onset dementia usually live at home with their families. Family members have to come to terms with gradually losing the person they have known. They have to readjust their outlook on life and accept that their future will probably be different than they had envisioned (Becker 1997; Bury 1982). Furthermore, they increasingly have to assist the sick person in daily activities. Usually, at some point, the family has to make the difficult decision to admit the person with dementia to a nursing home, where most people with dementia in the Netherlands die (Houttekier et al. 2010).