Mutualism can be favored over exploitation of mutualism when interests of potential heterospecihc partners are aligned so that individual organisms are beneficial to each others' continued growth, survival, and reproduction, that is, when exploitation of a particular partner individual is costly. A coral reef sponge system is particularly amenable to field experiments probing how costs of exploitation can be influenced by life-history characteristics. Pairwise associations among three of the sponge species are mutually beneficial. A fourth species, Desmapsamma anchorata, exploits these mutualisms. Desmapsamma also differs from the other species by growing faster, fragmenting more readily, and suffering higher mortality rates. Evaluating costs and benefits of association in the context of the complex life histories of these asexually fragmenting sponges shows costs of exploitation to be high for the mutualistic species but very low for this essentially weedy species. Although it benefits from association more than the mutualist species, by relying on their superior tensile strength and extensibility to reduce damage by physical disturbance, exploitation is favored because each individual host is of only ephemeral use. These sponges illustrate how life-history differences can influence the duration of association between individuals and, thus, the role of partner fidelity in promoting mutualism.Keywords: sponges, mutualism, partner fidelity, asexual fragmentation, weed strategies, exploitation.Why some species participate in mutualisms while other species exploit mutualisms remains one of the more intriguing questions about interspecific interactions (e.g., (2000) showed that partner interests can align when benefits are symmetrical to the partners, partner species differ in their resource preferences, and successful transmission of a symbiont depends on a long-lived host. Likewise, Yu (2001) stressed the importance of reliable reassembly and the original benefit-donor (or its offspring) receiving the reciprocated benefit. Finally, a model by Foster and Wenseleers (2006) identified high benefit-to-cost ratios for heterospecific interactions, high within-species relatedness, and high between-species fidelity as helping mutualisms withstand the threat of exploitation.In common among many of these mutualism-promoting factors is that they align interests of species by increasing how beneficial an individual (or clone or colony) of one species is to the continued survival, growth, and reproduction of a particular individual of the partner species. If fitness benefits are gained as long as the association is maintained, an exploiter risks damaging itself if it damages its partner, favoring mutualism without need for special sanctions against exploiters (i.e., "passive retaliation" in the sense of Bull and Rice [1991]). This has been referred to as "partner fidelity" by Bull and Rice (1991) and Sachs et al. (2004) and as "community of interest" by Leigh (2001) and has played a prominent role in discussions of