The Decision to Forgive: Sex, Gender, and the Likelihood to Forgive Partner Transgressions

Sidelinger, Robert J.; Frisby, Brandi N.; McMullen, Audra L.

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“…One contribution of this study was to focus on meaning making fashioned from the interplay of competing discourses. Rather than looking for self-reports about the dimensions or functions of forgiveness (e.g., Fincham, Beach, & Davila, 2004) or trying to make predictions about the causes and effects of forgiveness (e.g., Sidelinger, Frisby, & McMullen, 2009), my goal was to explore meanings of forgiveness as constructed in online narratives.…”

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confidence: 99%

Competing Discourses of Forgiveness: A Dialogic Perspective

Pederson

2014

Communication Studies

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Competing Discourses of Forgiveness: A Dialogic Perspective

Pederson

2014

Communication Studies

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“…These include overt responses of the offender that take nonverbal forms such as looks of startle, changes in body posture or stance, facial expressions, signs of fear, crying, and also verbal forms such as pleading for forgiveness, tacts of present pain or emotional states, etc. It is generally considered that these features of apologies, particularly those referred to as sincerity, are the most likely to produce a forgiving response from the victim (e.g., Bachman & Guerrero, 2006;Darby & Schlenker, 1982;Ebesu Hubbard et al, 2013;Schumann, 2012;Sidelinger, Frisby, & McMullen, 2009;Zechmeister, Garcia, Romero, & Vas, 2004). These features of apologetic responses will be referred to as emotional responses.…”

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A Behavioral Analysis of Apologies, Forgiveness, and Interpersonal Conflict

Toney

Hayes

2017

Behav. Soc. Iss.

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Episodes of conflict can be among the most distressful experiences while interacting with others or within a relationship. There are a number of behaviors that occur to compose a conflict, however there are two behaviors that serve to restore a relationship following a conflict, those of apologizing and forgiving. While substantial attention has been provided to the issues of interpersonal conflict, apologizing, and forgiving from more traditional approaches, these accounts contrast with the views of behavior analysis in a number of ways. When the behaviors involved in interpersonal conflict are assessed from a behavioranalytic perspective, many of these traditional views are directly challenged. Furthermore, we find that the manner in which conflicts are normally resolved within relationships may be contributing to harmful patterns of interacting. The present paper aims to provide a thorough behavioral analysis of the operating contingencies and behaviors that occur during episodes of interpersonal conflict. With such an understanding, suggestions are made based on behavioral principles and procedures as to how resolution may be more readily achieved and further conflict may be avoided. KEYWORDS: conflict, apology, forgiveness, relationships, behavior analysis Relationships of every kind can be complicated and at times difficult for the individuals involved. While the majority of interactions within a relationship ideally are positive, it is almost unavoidable to experience a conflict of some sort. Individuals disagree, argue, insult, or cause pain to the other, all of which are likely distressing to those involved. These interactions can result in an array of unpleasant circumstances, such as avoidance, retaliation, or even the termination of a relationship. However, the behaviors of apologizing and forgiving serve to restore the relationship following a conflict; therefore, an examination seems warranted.The behaviors of apologizing and forgiving have become common features of our repertoires. The types of situations in which we engage in one or the other can vary greatly, such as when we abruptly walk in front of an individual at a grocery store to more substantial offenses as when a leader apologizes to a nation for wrongful action in war. These behaviors also occur across various types of relationships; a parent demands her child apologize to a sibling, and a partner proclaims to a spouse, "I deserve an apology." Being such common behaviors, apologizing and forgiving have received a great deal of attention from traditional fields. However, these accounts pose an array of differences when compared to those of behavior analysis. These differences, in general, pertain to the treatments of emotion, the emphasis on the form rather than the function of the responses involved, and the treatment of one independent individual's behavior.

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“…It is possible that parental education, the length of the relationship, and time since separation are linked to the key variables in our research (Yárnoz Yaben 2009 ). Also, although both men and women tend to increase mobilization of social network support in times of greater distress (Fincham et al 2007 ), gender differences may affect the hypothesized processes, especially because men were found to be more forgiving than women (Sidelinger et al 2009 ).…”

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I’ll Never Forgive You: High Conflict Divorce, Social Network, and Co-Parenting Conflicts

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The relation between divorce, co-parenting conflicts, and children’s adjustment problems has been well established. An unresolved question for research and clinical interventions, however, is how conflicts between parents are maintained and/or escalate. This cross-sectional research tested the hypothesis that co-parenting conflicts in divorced couples are associated with perceived social network disapproval and that this relation is mediated by parents’ tendency to forgive each other. In Study 1, a convenience sample of 136 divorced parents recruited via online forums, we showed that perceived social network disapproval was indeed positively related to co-parenting conflicts and that parents’ tendency to forgive the other parent—albeit partly—explained this relationship. Strength of our research is that in Study 2, 110 parents referred to children’s mental health care because the wellbeing of the children was severely compromised by the severity of the conflicts between parents, we replicated these results. In both studies perceived social network disapproval and co-parenting conflicts were positively related and this link was mediated by forgiveness: perceived social network disapproval was negatively related to forgiveness, which in turn was negatively related to more parental conflicts.

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The Decision to Forgive: Sex, Gender, and the Likelihood to Forgive Partner Transgressions

Cited by 17 publications

References 39 publications

Competing Discourses of Forgiveness: A Dialogic Perspective

Competing Discourses of Forgiveness: A Dialogic Perspective

A Behavioral Analysis of Apologies, Forgiveness, and Interpersonal Conflict

I’ll Never Forgive You: High Conflict Divorce, Social Network, and Co-Parenting Conflicts

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