Traditional heteronormative discourses construct sex as an essential and expected part of heterosexual relationships, with "sex" commonly equated with "penis-in-vagina-intercourse" (Faustino, 2018;Myerson et al., 2007) or coitus. Gavey et al.'s (1999) heterosexual participants constructed the practice of coitus within heterosexual relationships as "healthy", "natural" and "normal". If the practice of, and desire for, heterosex is normal, it therefore follows that the absence or refusal of heterosex in relationships is potentially "abnormal" or a sign of