“…As Sarah Buss (2005) explains more generally, we know how to live with deception, how to flourish with it, how to build on it. Taking a cue from Søren Kierkegaard (2013), Buss (2005) suggests that deception pervades courting; it provides the elements of seduction. At the start of a romance, people put on a good face, contriving to create the appearance that they are particularly handsome, beautiful, thoughtful, considerate, cultured, and so on-more so than they really are.…”