“…While outward skills and behaviors may be helpful to someone who is more ethically responsive and exhibits more of an I–Thou way of being, without an inward change and compassionate view of the Other, practitioners may be encouraging less responsive individuals and couples with more of an I–It way of being to simply wage a war with more tools in their possession (Rogge, Cobb, Lawrence, Johnson, & Bradbury, ). It is for this reason, in part, that we believe that some program evaluations have found that relationship and marriage education (RME) programs are less effective than hoped (e.g., Hsueh et al, ; Wood, McConnell, Moore, Clarkwest, & Hsueh, ). Such results may further illustrate why some have concluded that “whether tested in carefully controlled outcome trials or in large demonstration projects, preventive interventions derived from social learning theory are underperforming relative to expectations and lacking clear evidence of efficacy” (Johnson & Bradbury, , p. 16).…”