To Honor the Net in Invitational Counseling

Abstract

Honoring the net is a concept presented by Purkey in his discussion ofthe four-corner press. In a counseling setting this concept relates to theperceptions of the counselor and the client as they encounter oneanother in the counseling relationship, as well as the relationshipitself. This manuscript attempts to examine the dynamic of the net andthe process of honoring the net in these interactions.

Diversity and Invitational Theory and Practice

“…As Purkey and Schmidt (1996) noted, "Without a reasonable level of trust, the client will not self-disclose, explore new options, or take the risks necessary to find new ways of being" (p. 92). Establishing such trust, initially, and maintaining a level that invites diverse clients to feel accepted and willing to explore newly adopted worlds while taking personal and social risks that might alter past worldviews are related to another metaphor found in invitational theory and practice called honoring the net (Purkey & Schmidt, 1996, Stafford, 1992, 2003.…”

“…This concept is especially important when relating with diverse populations. As Stafford (2003) surmised, it is akin to the notion of unconditional positive regard first mentioned by Carl Rogers (1951). Stafford (2003) also highlighted the important quality of respectfulness and the skill of listening in facilitating beneficial helping relationships while valuing differences that exist between professionals and their clients.…”

“…211-212). At the same time, Stafford (2003) indicated that occasions might happen when professionals feel compelled to violate the net, particularly when clients demonstrate harmful behaviors or destructive decisions. He cautioned that limitations placed on honoring the net "is an issue for each of us individually, and this is an issue which each of us must address in our own way" (p. 17).…”