In a fraction of a second, trauma changes us. Trauma injures organs, fractures bones, and makes us bleed, but it also leads to suffering, demoralization, and fear. While physical injuries can often be neatly classified, emotional and spiritual injuries cannot. These burdens are shouldered by many, not just those who are physically injured. Families, friends, communities, and even those who care for the injured are also wounded.Trauma professionals' decisions can change us, too. Trauma surgeons must make highstakes decisions, often in rapid succession and without knowledge of a patient's identity or history. In our field, the "golden hour"-the hour just after an injury when medical care is most likely to prevent death-is dogma [1]. For this reason, action almost always outpaces deliberation. Choices such as whether to give blood, go to the operating room, amputate, or try to salvage a mangled extremity are often made without an understanding of our patients' life goals and values. As a result, we almost always sacrifice respect for autonomy in favor of what we presume to be our patients' best interest.